Aparigraha is the virtue of non-possessiveness, non-grasping or non-greediness.
A few weeks ago, my friends and I delivered a yoga class inspired in this virtue. We invited our families and friends to fully experienced aparigraha on a yoga practice. They sweated, smiled, got tired, felt energetic and relaxed. But at the end of it, they let that experience go to make room for the next thing.
This is exactly the principle of non-attachment. Accepting that life is constantly changing, every minute, every day, every week and so on.
A few days after the class, I realized how I was getting attached to a dream of perfection, an idea that I created in my mind, thinking that life could be the same as it was a few years ago. I was grasping on feelings and emotions that fulfilled me time ago. As the sensation was so pleasant, I wanted to repeat it again and again.
Nothing in life will remain the same forever, nor should it.
Change is the very foundation of growth.
My enthusiasm to keep things the same, made my life be stagnant and complex. Life moved on and I started feeling unhappy and resentful about sensations from the past. Many times, I thought about letting go but I was afraid of it, of what would happen in the future. Would I be happy again? Will I be messing up and regretting it later?
"Expectation is the root of all heartache" – William Shakespeare
I was dragging my emotional baggage here and there, disguised on my happy smile.
But imagine: WHO would I be without resentment, expectations, disappointments or a broken heart?...... Suddenly, I stopped being concerned about it, I was releasing expectations and stories created in my mind. And guess what? I am still alive, happy and noticing fantastic things happening in my life: the "good morning" of a stranger on the street, the view on my commute, the little thing that make a special day and more.
“If you love something set it free, if it comes back it was meant to be.”
This is non-attachment, this is making our journey light and easy. We have all the right to hold on what we love, although sometimes it is just makes our path more difficult. Letting go does not mean giving up, it is just not expecting a result or controlling what you want.
Letting go is like breathing. We inhale and nourish our body; we exhale and we cleanse our body while letting go. We do not worry about breathing. We just trust it and know that more will come. Life is exactly like that, when we stop thinking or fearing about the future, magic happens bringing more nourishment back.
I am starting to pay attention when I am clinging into something. I know it is not an easy path, but it is more beautiful what will come if I release.
I am not a person that easily gets attached to physical stuff, but I do to feelings and emotions. I need to learn from it and continue growing.
If you are feeling sad, empty, depressed or overwhelmed, I hope this blog could get you started on a new way of thinking and inspires you to the next steps in your lovely life.
All the things of the world are for you to use but not to own,
let go of attachments to things and
understand that impermanence and change are constants.
Respect others beliefs and possessions.
Have what you need and use what you have.